Never Prouder
What would it be like to go a full day without trying to please, perfect, or otherwise prove your worth? Here’s why it’s worth pushing yourself to find out.
The Buck Stops Here
Have you ever found yourself feeling guilty about or inclined to suppress your negative emotions? Here's why this perfectionist tendency hurts not only you but also the people you care about, and how you can break this toxic cycle.
Foundations for Flourishing
Do you ever feel like you're just surviving rather than really thriving? If so, read on for bite-sized strategies you can use to enhance the foundational elements your well-being.
Flipping the Script
The sad truth is that most of us have long been being fed lies about perfectionism. Here are the facts I so badly wish I'd learned long ago.
I’m Not Spoiled Goods
There was a time when I considered myself “spoiled goods” because I was aware of all the ways that my perfectionist tendencies were hurting me, but I felt powerless to change them. Then I discovered something that changed everything for me.
Loosening the Armor
Perfectionists often try to “protect” themselves by concealing their hopes and aspirations from others. But this defense mechanism can actually do more harm than good. Here’s why it’s worth loosening our armor.
Don’t Be a Duck!
I hate to break it to you, but that mask of confidence you’ve been wearing for protection is actually preventing you from experiencing true security or connection. Here’s a safe way to try taking it off.
The People-Pleaser’s Paradox
If you’re a people-pleaser, read on because this hack could very well change your life.
Don’t think you’re a perfectionist? Think again…
Here are some of the most common myths that prevent us from getting a handle on our perfectionism, and steps we can take to overcome them.
The Science Doesn’t Lie (but your inner-critic might…)
Think that ruthlessly critical drill-sergeant in your head is driving you forward? Think again.
Holiday Boundaries for Beginners
Boundaries are essential for healthy and happy relationships. But many of us have never learned how to draw them. Here are some tips for getting started this holiday season.
Taking the Long View
Our anxious brains are constantly telling us that we just can’t spare the time to invest in our future productivity, performance, or well-being. Here’s why it’s worth taking the long view.
Wherever You Go, There You Are
People sometimes ask why I feel so strongly that reining in perfectionism is the single most important step many people can take to meaningfully enhance their well-being. This is why.
Everyday Gratitude (With a Twist)
There is nothing seasonal about the benefits of gratitude. These practices have helped me ensure I don’t take life’s gifts for granted during the non-November months of the year.
Big-Picture Perfection
Perfection is a myth. But if we can bring ourselves to stop stubbornly pursuing this mirage, we can achieve big-picture perfection.
Find Your Way Home
While it’s easy to lose ourselves amidst the pressures of daily life, our values provide a compass that we can always use to find our way back home.
Permission Slip
Our anxious brains often try to stymie our self-care efforts. While we can’t necessarily stop those waves of anxiety from coming, this strategy will help you ride them steadily to shore.
Confession About My Crickets
There’s a reason I haven’t posted in a little while, and it’s not one I’m proud of. This is me holding myself accountable.
Guiding Principles
My husband and I made what could have easily been a highly mundane and morose period magical by heeding three guiding principles.
What We Can Learn From Cucumbers and Ice Cubes
Our perfectionist brains often tell us to give up when we don’t see immediate progress. Here’s why we should stick it out.